Ross is originally from Shelton, Connecticut where he swam for Deerfield Academy. He then traveled west to swim for UCLA where he was a member of UCLA's 1982 NCAA Championship team and was a 1980 Olympic Trial Qualifier. He has previously coached for the University of Texas Men's Swim Team and Westside Masters in Culver City, California. He is a U.S. Masters All-American and has been a member of DAM since 1986. Ross spends his days in Dallas as a freelance creative director/copywriter and is married to Dr. Laura Frye. They have one son Reese. He started coaching for DAM in 2010.